Hello everyone. There is a word or a subject that I would like to discuss that a lot of people seem to be having a really huge problem with, and that is,
Wikipedia defines forgiveness as this, “The process of concluding resentment, indignation or anger, as a result of a perceived offense, difference or mistake; and ceasing to demand punishment or restitution. That means, you give up all claim on account of the perceieved offence or debt. and not expect restorative justice from the percieved offender. Many people say, “I forgave, but I won’t forget.”
Forgiveness is not for others, it’s for you. When we don’t forgive, we will begin to harbor feelings such as anger and bitterness, that will quickly turn to hate, especially when we feel like we have been wronged. Then we simply get stuck there, just existing and we can’t move on, because we can’t seem to forgive. We become victims. Once we begin to internalize these feelings we tend to do serveral things, 1. We lash out. 2. We blame or transfer blame. 3. We act out. 4. We hide.
So, here is the question, If I forgive and not forget is it true forgiveness? Do I need to forgive anyone? Am I holding anyone in unforgiveness? And, Is it necessary for the offender to offer some form of acknowledgement, apology, and/or restitution, or even just ask for forgiveness, in order for the wronged person to believe himself able to forgive?
Now, tell me what you think.